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Writer. Witch. If Garnet was obsessed with Evanescence's The Open Door tbh.

The gays are up to their shenanigans again, and I am living. Lil Nas X is in what Christians, self-proclaimed spiritualists (but really just Christians with extra steps), and weird people on Twitter would probably call hot water after the release of his new music video “Montero (Call Me By Your Name).” If you’re not a Lil Nas fan or don’t listen to much hip-hop then you should check out the video hyperlinked in the last sentence. The section of the video that’s getting the most attention is towards the end when Nas gives a lap dance to the devil…


Before we even get two sentences deep into this article, I’m just going to go ahead and call Robert Aaron Long’s attack what it is: a hate crime. Period. For me, and the law according to Georgia’s statutes, it is, in fact, a hate crime. A crime that is first a crime and secondly committed out of bias is absolutely what this was. While Long may claim that his attacks were not racially motivated, he was still targeting women. That’s a hate crime. That said, I also believe he was targeting Asian women specifically, thus marking these atrocities as racially…


Oh boy…strap in.

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Trump and a large portion of his extraordinarily racist, sexist, hypocritical, and dangerous regime are finally exiting the seats that they should have never occupied. It’s been a wild ride of spinning, distracting, stoking, and nepotism, but the light at the end of the tunnel is finally in sight. It’s clear that a certain group is pretty displeased with the results of the election, but where does it leave the rest of us? Have things changed that much? Is America any better off in a post-Trump world as the transition begins to take place? Well, if he…


Or rather an exploration of whether or not I should have one.

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I should preface this article by saying that while I am gender-fluid and leaning more toward the “neutral” part of that spectrum, I am perfectly fine with people referring to me with both male and female pronouns. I am not trans, nor do I experience any sort of gender dysmorphia as it relates to my male anatomy. What I’m saying may or may not apply to some trans individuals who experience and use their own spectrum of gender identity, adjectives, and pronouns. That’s not to exclude trans folks of course, but rather to say I have no intention of speaking…


I didn’t bring cake, but I received a wonderful gift

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This is weird. Like…really weird…I’m a military brat, and we have a reputation for being super shitty with emotional openness and vulnerability. Relationships, friendships, and death are things I for sure have struggled to relate to in any “normal” way, so how the fuck am I supposed to deal with a “grief anniversary”? Do I cry? Do I pretend like today is just another day? Do I get angry at people who seem to be trying to competitively out sad each other? Because I’ve already done all that, and it didn’t help me feel any better…it didn’t help me feel…


A guide on how not to offend this Halloween

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1. No Black face.

2. No Yellow Face (Unless you are literally like a yellow alien or a jaundice zombie.)

3. No cultural appropriation! (This includes but is not limited to the cultures of Africa, Native America, Asia. Literally all of it. Asia is huge. Look it up. Don’t be lazy.)

In fact, I think that’s the general rule: don’t be lazy. We live in a different time. As much as people would like to delegitimize the offense of others by calling them snowflakes or saying they’re too easily offended, the…


Or an observation of why I can say it, but you shouldn’t.

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Notice, how I didn’t say you can’t say it? Also, full disclosure, I don’t really use the word. If we’re being honest, the word in the title is literally only to elicit a biological (and possibly even) physical response in the reader. Did you feel your stomach drop? Did you feel dirty for saying the word in your head even though it wasn’t out loud? Did you feel nothing at all? Does it bother you that it was there to begin with? Good. …


Spike, I forgive you, but I’m pissed off that I do

For the newcomers, this is Buffy and Spike.

This one’s a long one y’all. While not nearly as controversial as race and dating (which is apparently VERY controversial), but it’s important to me nonetheless.

It’s been about 22 years since the premiere of Buffy the Vampire Slayer. That’s good, because we need to talk, and I’m definitely going to need alcohol to address it. I must admit that I didn’t watch the original run of the show. I recently binged it in its entirety with a friend. I absolutely loved a lot of the feminist themes, the…

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