It’s Time to Stop Slut Shaming Pride

I get it, PDA and public promiscuity aren’t your thing, but it is some people’s thing. Let them enjoy it.

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I know that national pride month just ended here in the states, but the pride doesn’t stop there. Other countries, towns, cities, and individuals continue to celebrate their gay pride, and they should be able to do that without shame.

Who was the goddess of gay that came down from the heavens and decreed that a gay must be prim and proper at all times? It’s not uncommon that lascivious heterosexual behavior is thrown at society literally everywhere we look (and with little complaint from the community, mind you), so why do we, the LGBTQ+ community, get so offended when our own people just do the same?

Human beings are sexual creatures. Most of us like sex. Our bodies are engineered to have and enjoy sex, so why not talk about it? By telling other members of the community that they aren’t celebrating pride properly just because they choose to party or hook up instead of having candlelit vigils and I guess meditating to become more in tune with their higher gay, you are erasing a part of their identity while simultaneously telling society it is okay to do the same.

If a pride event near you is too promiscuous for your liking, go.to.another one. Organize your own. Do anything but pick fights with people who are genuinely just trying to live their best lives and enjoy a part of themselves that they’ve probably had to hide for gods know how long. Mature, consenting adults should be allowed to explore their desires in a safe and understanding way.

Some people fall in love over sex, some people have sex (like a LOT of sex) and never speak to those partners again. Who. Cares. As my mom would say, “it ain’t you!” I’ve seen an emergence of education, safety, and aid in all aspects from some of the kinkiest minds in the community, and I’m here for it. Even if it was just sex, I’d still be here for it. It’s who they are. Sex, sex education, and sexual acceptance are as important to our community being wholly accepted as our right to adopt children, get medical care, and get married.

Writer. Witch. If Garnet was obsessed with Evansecence's The Open Door tbh.

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