What About MY Pussy?

Or rather an exploration of whether or not I should have one.

Photo by Yerlin Matu on Unsplash

I should preface this article by saying that while I am gender-fluid and leaning more toward the “neutral” part of that spectrum, I am perfectly fine with people referring to me with both male and female pronouns. I am not trans, nor do I experience any sort of gender dysmorphia as it relates to my male anatomy. What I’m saying may or may not apply to some trans individuals who experience and use their own spectrum of gender identity, adjectives, and pronouns. That’s not to exclude trans folks of course, but rather to say I have no intention of speaking for the trans community as it isn’t my experience. I feel that’s important to say because what I’ll be discussing this time is cisgender men who refer to their buttholes as a pussy. Is that okay? Does it matter? Are all sex holes pussies if you try hard enough?

Honestly, I never thought about it. As I said, I’m gender-fluid, so if someone referred to an orifice on my body as anything I really wouldn’t care, but what about people who do? The idea that people may take issue with this sprung up one day when I dared to look in *dun dun dunnnn* the comments section. Yikes. There were plenty of cisgender folks of multiple sexualities, but especially the gay ones, expressing their disgust at the idea of a man referring to a part of himself as feminine. Toxicity surrounding femininity and the softer side of masculinity is a whole other discussion and came as no surprise, unfortunately. The ones that stood out and made me write this article, however, were the cis-women.

It’s no secret that women’s rights, as a whole, is an aspect of American civil liberties that seems to be a constant uphill battle. I know why many men took issue with it. Sexism and an obsession with being “not that kinda gay” is something I’m all too familiar with. Women taking issue, though, that was new. I asked myself: are cis-men embracing their pussy power trampling on the presence of women who have a vagina in every aspect including the sexual? My knee jerk reaction was, “no of course not.” It is not, however, men’s assholes that are being policed by the federal government, taxed, or grabbed by a certain “president.” The question then became, was this more about claiming the pussy without the struggle of the pussy…